![]() ![]() ![]() Not to mention that this results in some probably well-intentioned cis women missing out on connecting with lots of beautiful, amazing trans women. And the fact is that trans women are a component of queer women’s communities, so a lack of respect amongst us just means more devaluing of women, when society dishes out plenty of that for all of us already. Now, if your response is to start worrying over having to figure out all this ‘complicated trans stuff,’ then I would emphasize a lot of this boils down to respecting us as women just as much as you would want to be respected yourself. And beyond that, this kind of ignorant cissexism just gets in the way of us getting closer and having fun together. One point is that this isn’t just a matter of grossing out a trans woman over dinner it’s also a matter of a cis woman making herself look like kind of an ass. Okay ladies, let’s stop right here and get our game together. After the point that she referred to me as a “trans woman” as opposed to a “woman woman,” I found it difficult to bring myself to even say much for the last few minutes of our little disaster date. Sadly, the situation only further deteriorated with the appearance of the word “ladyboy,” and the fact that somehow the subject kept getting changed when I tried to discuss these things. And given that she was aware of my body configuration I have to think that is a strange comment to make to me on a date. But is she really implying that the men who were invited to exhibit their work were asked to do so on the basis of their genitalia? As a woman I have to say that having a penis never got me special treatment in the academic world. Okay, we all get the basic intended meaning here. ![]() “Yeah, it’s supposed to represent artists from the South, but it turns out it’s just a total sausage fest.” But then she said something that struck a really odd chord: It’s pretty easy to feel anger over such blatant sexism, and it immediately reminded me of some of my own experiences of feeling ignored at times in my own workplace. The thing is, whoever put together this particular exhibition had invited a number of men from her theatre program to participate - meanwhile she and several of the other women who graduated from the program found out about the event later when one of the guys posted it on facebook. At one point she shared with me her frustrations over a performance meant to showcase artists from our region in the U.S. Some of the conversation we shared was nice, we talked about film (fyi – an easy topic to hold my interest, ladies!), our common roots back in the States, and her background in performance art. Recently, I went on a dinner date with a cis woman that ended a bit awkwardly. The Autostraddle Encyclopedia of Lesbian Cinema.LGBTQ Television Guide: What To Watch Now. ![]()
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